Embracing Emotions: A Strength, Not a Weakness

The common and outdated stereotype that labels women as 'too emotional' still prevails in New Zealand's business circles. I've observed that this perception not only persists but is also damaging. It is easy to advocate for change, yet real transformation requires society to view emotion not as a weakness but as a valuable asset.

From my experience, the view of emotions as a vulnerability is entrenched, yet emotions are not a flaw. They are an integral part of being human and can be a source of strength. The real issue stems from our collective unease and misunderstanding of emotions. In many instances, while men are often permitted to express anger, women are criticised for showing vulnerability. This discrepancy highlights a broader societal issue.

Our struggle with emotions originates from a misconception that they should be suppressed, especially in professional or public settings, to maintain 'rationality' or 'professionalism.' However, suppressing emotions doesn't eradicate them; it pushes them deeper, where they can silently shape our behaviour unrecognised.

Developing emotional literacy is essential for understanding and utilising our emotions effectively. It's important to differentiate between experiencing an emotion and expressing it. Emotions guide our life's journey, and we should neither seek only those that bring us joy nor avoid those that don't. Every emotion has a purpose, and running away from them is not the solution.

To develop a healthier relationship with your emotions, consider these three steps:

1. Be Led by Values:

Understand that your emotions often reflect your core values. If something provokes a strong emotional response, it's likely because it resonates with or challenges your fundamental beliefs. Use this insight to shape your actions.

2. Differentiate Between Feeling and Expressing:

It's crucial to distinguish between feeling an emotion and acting on it. Feeling anger doesn't necessitate aggressive responses; rather, it can be used as an indicator to explore its roots and address the underlying issues constructively.

3. Embrace Emotional Literacy:

Invest time in identifying and understanding your emotions. This goes beyond simply naming them—exploring their triggers, physical manifestations, and impact on your thoughts and actions. This knowledge allows you to use your emotions to navigate life's challenges effectively.

By recognising emotions as sources of insight and strength, we can redefine outdated stereotypes and encourage a society where everyone can express their emotions authentically and freely. Emotional literacy isn't just about managing emotions; it's about understanding and leveraging them to lead a more fulfilling life.