Learning how to use emotions

2020 – the year of clarity, the year that prompted us to focus on the things that really matter and the year that Genius You stood on its own two feet.

I put 40 people through the programme this year, and it's achieving the level of impact in people’s lives that I always knew it could. It’s receiving incredible accolades like...’this is the best thing I’ve ever done’, and ‘everyone in the world needs to do this’. It’s resolved anxiety, saved relationships, liberated people and of course enabled brilliance, left, right and centre.

On a personal level it has contributed so much that’s wonderful. I am smashing personal defence systems every week and I’m watching my family thrive.

But I’ve also been miserable.

Okay, I am being a bit dramatic, which I must admit I have a talent for.

So, as well as all the triumphs it has been one of the saddest years I have ever experienced, as I have been grieving a significant loss.

As well as learning how to grieve, which is an artform in itself, it’s been really vital to know how to break things down. Ok, I’ve been sad but there have plenty of great moments which shouldn’t be overshadowed by the sadness. Both resulted in me having to deal with powerful emotions.

One of the wonderful things we learn in Genius You is how to use our emotions. They can be tricky, icky, sticky but they are also very important parts of us. If we don’t understand them, they easily detract from our lives, rather than enhance it.

Emotions are how we experience life. They are also pretty fantastic tools. They teach us about ourselves and others. We can learn how to use them in order to protect ourselves. They need to be understood and put to use.

e.g. (and a small caveat – these won’t apply to everyone in exactly the same way)

• Anger indicates a wrongdoing.

• Resentment can prompt you to seek balance.

• Frustration asks for you to go deeper.

• Jealousy, equals desire...

All these emotions are powerful and can be used to inform and direct us.

But the thing is we spend so much of our lives attempting to move away from the emotions we don’t like and gravitating towards the emotions we do. It leaves us very unbalanced.

I’m glad I’m grieving. Because the grief indicates my level of loss and the loss is a reflection of the amount of love and wonderful experiences I had, and for that, I will always be grateful.

So in 2020. I succeeded. I lost. I grieved. I’m wiser. And I’m ready to rock into what’s next.

Come learn how to use emotions with me.